Where my sidewalk ends

chairsMoving to a new state, neighborhood/area filled with strangers is daunting. But, I feel like we moved here with a positive, friendly and trusting mindset…maybe a little bit too trusting.

I shared the background of this post on Facebook, so I’ll copy/paste it here, in order to make a long story short:

The other day, a group of about 8-10 teen/pre-teen girls walked by our home, on the sidewalk. I was outside, watering the flowers. “I like those chairs!!!” one of the older girls exclaimed enthusiastically, about our two orange porch chairs. “Well, thank you!” I responded, feeling very happily June Cleaverish with my hose and blooming lilies. Naive, I am…because this morning, guess what was missing from our porch? I hope they’re at least enjoying their NEW home.

What I didn’t share then, was that after finding out we had our chairs stolen, the feeling of our new, nice, suburban area with friendly people in it suddenly felt muddled, unsafe — and I even felt exposed and vulnerable just leaving my doorstep to walk Moxie. I also didn’t share that after the girl yelled to me that she liked our chairs, I did get a twinge of alarm in the back of my mind, like maybe I should be putting the chairs away at night, or something. Finally, I also didn’t share that the group of 8-10 girls ranging from approximately 13 years old to 4 years old, without adult supervision, and who were throwing expletives, including the N-word, around to each other, were black. I didn’t share this, because I didn’t think it was important. Continue reading


What the (expletive)?

The title of this post says it all. So, let’s jump right in.

Why are all the Toddlers and Tiaras moms incredibly unkempt? You’d think they’d be a little bit more obsessed with — or at least concerned with — their own looks. Most of them look as though they just rolled ousirit of  bed and perhaps haven’t showered in a day or two.

Siri. She has always annoyed me, and I know it might sound crazy, but I don’t think she likes me. I can hear it in her tone. And lately — she’s been getting me lost. I asked her to find me a PetSmart and she brought me to the middle of a residential development. I asked her to find me a Marshalls and she told me that I arrived at my destination while I was still in the middle of the highway. I think she’s doing it on purpose and I hate her.

Things — in general — are slower here in IL than in NY. Speed limits, restaurant service and even just how people talk. Slower. Continue reading

Are you a good neighbor?

welcomeSome people are super neighborly — popping in, ringing the doorbell to ask questions and/or deliver goodies. They invite their neighbors over for dinner, offer to watch their house/pets when they’re away on vacation and bring their newspaper over to them personally when it’s accidentally delivered to their house.

Do those things make them a good neighbor?

Some neighbors keep to themselves, only waving and slightly smiling when they see their neighbors outside, placing mistakingly-delivered newspapers on the edge of the correct driveway and no one even notices when they’re away or back from vacation.

Do those things — or lack thereof — make them a good neighbor? Continue reading

Indoor camping

new houseWhen we pulled into our new home this past Friday, we both knew our furniture and other belongings wouldn’t arrive until Tuesday (today). But, we had an air mattress, clothes and Moxie. So, we thought, hey — we can do this…right?!

I imagined it would be similar to camping. Now, I’ve never hated camping. Except if it was raining. Ugh. But, I did go through a period of “I loooove camping!”–  in high school, though. And, even then — being ‘trapped’ with the same people, with limited resources, for more than 24 hours, drove me c-r-a-z-y.

So, while I obviously can handle being with my fiancé for more than 24 hours, I did wonder how we’d handle us hangin’ out like two nomads in an empty house for a few days — and if we’d annoy each other at all. Because, there’s also the whole stress of moving and being in a new state, area, town, etc. being factored in. Continue reading

Why did I grow up?

I went to visit some dear friends of mine last evening. Two of them have the most adorable little boy in the entire world (who, while babysitting, I adorned with a backwards diaper). He is 3 years old. My mom came along, as well — anddirt while we were chatting — about moving, engagement, babies, life — my mom sat on the floor, chatting with him about the baby his mommy is currently carrying.

“So, you’re gonna have a baby soon”, she asked.

“Yeah. Where’s your baby”, he replied.

My mom pointed to me and said, “She’s my baby, did you know that?”

He thought about this.

“Why’d she grow up so big?”


It was a simple question on his part. Why did I get to be so big, physically, if I were a baby? But to adult me, it certainly had a more profound meaning. Continue reading

I will NOT miss…

no_thumbs_down_sticker-rd029915fddbd4d6f923e1ba231ff8d14_v9waf_8byvr_512Route 4. AT ALL. I remember when Route 4 was suburban and actually a very nice drive. Not anymore. It’s pure stress and annoyance.

Local radio stations. I’m sorry, but there’s only like, 5 listenable (to me) radio stations in this area and all 5 are almost always playing commercials at the exact same time. And, when they’re not, 3 of them are playing the same song. You would think they could do something to work together and figure that timing thing out. And…why does every radio station have to have a morning show? Sure, there are mornings I don’t feel like listening to music, but can’t we pick one station for a morning show? In other words, does the Elvis Duran show really need to exist? No. And, where I’ll be in IL, they don’t.

Pearl Street. What happened?! Continue reading

Ugly shorts, Starbucks and markers


No. And they’re $188!

Before I get to packing, organizing and errand running today — for our big move to the Chicago area — I’m enjoying an iced coffee and putting this post together. It’s pretty random, just to warn you. But, it’s a good rainy day for random fun.

See this article on MSN about what shorts you should wear for your body type, according to Lucky Magazine? I’m not a huge fan of shorts (or Lucky Magazine), but I’ve seen some super cute shorts…and I have to say 90% of these shorts are absolutely hideous (pleats!) And, really:

“If You Are Long and Tall… Stockpile on Bermuda cuts. The lean shape exaggerates leggy girls’ statuesque proportions. A gold sticker if you wear them with heels—strangers will spend all day asking if you’re a model.”

I mean, I don’t know about you, but if I had lean legsferdays, I certainly wouldn’t cover them up with shorts the same length as a 75-year-old’s. Continue reading