About Amanda Talar

I’m a writer. Also, I’m a lover of unnecessary shopping, corny jokes and sarcastic behavior.

I spent more than 2 years blogging for the Times Union and I loved every.single.second of it. I wrote about dPhotos 364ating, relationships, friendships, trivial and whimsical ideas and thoughts — and whatever else I found I had an opinion on. Which, was a lot of things — almost 1,000 posts worth.

And, while I enjoyed the freedom being a (non-paid) blogger with the TU offered me, I still felt a sense of responsibility to them. My gracious (pat on the back) departure from the TU blog world felt good. I felt like I had lifted a weight from my shoulders and wouldn’t keep readers looking for a new post that may/may not come. Life can get pretty busy sometimes, ya know? I can’t always keep a schedule when it comes to sharing thoughtful posts I’m proud of.

I’m a quality > quantity girl.

Because of that, I had thought maybe I’m just not a blogger anymore. But then, as some time went by, I found I missed it — writing, and sharing — more and more. And, that I had so many more opinions and thoughts I wanted to share.

So, here we are — you and I — together again.

Awww.

Buckle up.

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7 thoughts on “About Amanda Talar

  1. I’m an idiot. I’ve been reading AT as the word “at” this whole time. “About at….why would she write about that?” “The word at is on twitter?” Gooooooo me.

  2. Well I am just thrilled to see this page and loved following you on the TU, so here I am! Especially now that you are moving away and movin gonto marriage at well, it will be exciting to follow this adventure. I love to write and started a personal blog at one point but haven’t done much with it because I need to focus on its purpose. That is next on my bucket list! -Nicole

    • Thank you so much, Nicole! And, a blog’s purpose (in my opinion, of course) is to share, start discussions and challenge people to think (more). I know that I personally enjoy reading people’s blogs when they don’t focus on just ONE topic — rather, they write what’s on their mind, whatever it is!

  3. Just checked your blog and saw that you have been posting more frequently in the last couple of months. So happy! I’m a follower from the TU and am so glad you are back writing here. I also just got engaged and recently visited Chicago for the first time and loved it. Can’t wait to read all about your coming adventures in your relationship and in Chicago. 🙂

  4. I just wanted to tell you that I think your “opinions” are not very qualified. For instance, have you ever been a single, as in not currently married, mother? I couldn’t comment on the actual “blog” that you wrote, but I felt very strongly about this so I’m going to tell you my thoughts here. My ex-husband pays me child support and takes our children for 3 weeks in the summer and about 4 weekends during the year. We both make very decent salaries and are highly educated professionals. So, yes, he pays me child support for our 3 kids. It doesn’t even cover half the mortgage. And let me repeat, he’s a highly paid professional. So I doubt there is any woman out there collecting more in child support than most people’s pay checks, with the same education level. Yes, someone working at Walmart probably makes less, but then they didn’t put themselves through 8 years of school and they don’t pay $600 a month for student loans.

    My point in all of this, is that any woman, or MAN, who is the primary care provider of children, whether post divorce or otherwise is a superhero. You have NO idea what it is like to have no one to depend on when raising children. To worry about losing your job, unexpected costs, something breaking in the house, someone to help shuttle the kids to the 500 activities kids partake in these days (or to help pay for them), someone to have your back when something unexpected comes up at work and you have to stay til 9, I could go on and on forever. So I think you missed your mark, labeling us as divorced moms. Yes, there are men and women who are divorced that COPARENT, which is the category that you lumped all divorced couples into; however, there are also “divorced” women (and men) who pretty much run the whole show; so thank you for putting us down, I really hope it made you feel better.

    • You missed my point entirely. Your post was lumping all “divorced” women with children into a category where they have Tuesday and Thursday and every other weekend off…to sit on the couch eating bon bons or whatever they choose to do. All while collecting sizable checks from their ex husband so they don’t have to work…ever. I took offense to being lumped into this category. I never said my support is not enough or that I feel entitled to get more, I was simply pointing out that not all “divorced” women are receiving enough support to eat said Bon Bon on the couch on their days off. In fact, I doubt most are receiving that much money because my ex is a lawyer and makes a lot of money. Not bragging about that or want an award for it…just explaining that women aren’t getting the bank in child support. In fact you are likely referring to alimony, which I have never received or requested. And last time I checked, you don’t have to be divorced to collect child support. So the only difference between me and “single moms” is that I was married before and…oh wait, that’s the only difference. I do not want a title of single mom, or think there’s any glory in it. In fact, I am embarrassed by it. I find it to be the ultimate failure in life. But I also don’t want to be lumped into the Bon Bon eating bucket either. Which, correct me if I’m wrong, is what you did. A single parent is someone who is going through the process of parenting alone, whether they were ever married or not. You are a blogger and people read what you write and think it’s right because it’s posted on the Internet. Your column defaming all divorced women from 5 years ago is still out there and people are still reading it. For the record, I wasn’t insulting the Walmart workers; I was merely pointing out that there is a cost associated with attaining a successful, high-paying career. Also, I may have only one job, but I probably work just as much as your mom did with her 3.

      • You assume A LOT. I never mentioned bon-bons or alluded to any woman sitting home collecting checks. I simply stated they get some form of help from SOMEONE ELSE, which doesn’t make them – or you – a single mother. In my opinion. Yes, you were married before…so you’re divorced. It’s really that simple. You’re making it complicated by inserting your own bitterness.

        And, you find being a single mother to be “the ultimate failure in life” ?! Wow. I don’t see single mothers as failures. I see them as heroes. For what it’s worth, I don’t see divorced moms as failures, either. That’s sad you think that way.

        Anyway, please with the hard work comment. My single mom certainly didn’t have time to comment on old blog posts from 5 years ago. 🙂 Take care, now.

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